I have learned that when having twins inevitably the question of how this miraculous event came to be is one of the first questions that people have. Here's the scene:
I say, "I'm having twins."
The other person says, "Do twins run in your family?"
I say, "Not really."
They say, "Are they ivf twins?"
I say, "Yes, they are. (Here's the part I would like to add but don't) "By the way how were your children conceived? I've always wondered if you guys did it doggy style, in the shower, or perhaps the famous missionary position? Since we are talking about the intricate details of how our children were conceived and since you just asked me a personal question, I didn't think you would mind sharing about your conception story."
People are just so clueless, but I think if I followed up with the above statement it would put it into perspective of how they just asked a very personal question. Here is my actual response to do twins run in your family. "Not really, these are medically assisted twins." Usually there are no follow up questions after that. I am not ashamed or embarrassed that we did ivf, but it would be nice if people could just say congratulations and not worry about how the twins got there. If it was a singleton, there would be no questions asked.
I have been so blessed this pregnancy so far. I am now 15 weeks and in a little over a week we will find out the sex of the twinkies. I can't wait!
Next time someone asks...totally throw them the curve ball! I'd love to hear someone actually say it to someone once! Glad all is going well.
ReplyDeleteI love this post because this is exactly the order people ask me about my twins. I also say "we had a lot of medical help" and many seem embarrassed they asked.
ReplyDeleteI am planning to just say "That's private and we don't want to share." Our important family members know the real truth at this point, and anyone else who asks is just being nosy and invasive. Sorry you have to deal with that! Can't wait to hear about your gender scan!
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